And I submit that you, like me, need to start being “regardful” of the cost – to YOURSELF, not just the cost to others (which seems to be in the currency of disappointment, most times).
Roumiyah, a Greek girl, by name Sofiyah or Sophia,145 whom the King of Roum and Lord of Cæsarea had sent to King Omar as a present, together with great store of gifts and of rarities: she was the fairest of favour and loveliest of all his handmaids and the most regardful of her honour; and she was gifted with a wit as penetrating as her presence was fascinating.
He watched several gulls veering near and saw a hundred other, gulls positioned on a slope, all facing the same way, motionless, regardful, joined in consciousness, in beautiful empty birdness, waiting for the signal to fly.
Mr. Crisparkle at such times, regardful of the slumbers of the china shepherdess.
She was so devoted, she had such a quick perception of what it would be well to say, and what it would be well to leave unsaid; she was so forgetful of herself, and so regardful of the sorrow about her, that I held her in a sort of veneration.